Sitting Sex: How to Be Deeper, More Comfortable and Interesting?

You’ve probably tried missionary, doggy style, cowgirl or standing when making love—but have you ever tried having sex while sitting?

A survey found that 30.3% of American preferred doggy style, followed by missionary (28.1%) and cowgirl (20.7%).

But what about the sitting position? It doesn’t seem to be that popular.

What leaves the biggest impression during sex? It’s definitely those unexpected positions and new twists, right? Well, take a close look at this guide, and tonight you might just have the chance to introduce her to sitting sex.

Pros and Cons of Sitting Sex

Having sex while sitting doesn’t require a tantra chair. Your body itself can be the seat—let her sit on your lap like a queen, while you get to admire her sexy body and make love with her at the same time.

The advantages of this sexual position are obvious: high comfort, full intimacy, and deeper penetrations.

If your sex life needs a little spice, try sitting-up sex.

Pros

Controlled depth and angle of penetration: When she sits on your lap, she can better control the depth of penetration and stimulate all the sensitive spots inside her vagina from different angles.
Men show gentlemanly manners: She can control the depth, angle, speed when having sex, and when to start and pause the penetrations. While you, like a gentleman, show Lady First and enjoy it all.
Her pleasure is your pleasure: This position also signifies that “a woman’s sensuality is more important than a man’s.” There’s nothing sexier than being the man who can truly satisfy her in sex.
Multiple stimulation: This position allows you to tease her breasts and nipples perfectly. For an even more intense experience, you can incorporate sex toys to provide her with stronger, multiple waves of sexual pleasure.
Relaxed and comfortable: Her weight rests on your legs, while your body supports her back. This position is very practical and slow-paced, allowing you to enjoy every second of sex.

Cons

Endurance required: She needs sustained leg and core strength to maintain the penetrations. The man can offer extra support—using one hand to lift her hips, providing assistance as she swings or bounces.
Limited speed: If you like fast and intense penetrations, this sexual position may not be suitable because he is in a sitting position and his strength is limited.
Inconvenient eye contact: Deep eye contact can make sex more passionate and convey the feelings during sex to each other. But when sitting, she may face the same direction as you, and you cannot look at each other affectionately.

So how to get into position for seated sex? Let’s move on.

How to Engage in Sitting Sex Position?

Men’s Position

Sturdy support: Choose a solid surface—such as a bed, couch, or the floor. Just make sure it can securely hold both of your weights. It’s important for the surface to be stable, as any creaking noises during sex can disrupt the experience.
Lean back: Use your arms to support your body and lean back slightly. This will keep your body stable and open your chest for her to lean on – this will make her as relaxed as possible during the subsequent sex.
Open your legs: This creates a comfortable “seat” for her and gives your penis the space and angle it needs for smooth penetrations.
Penis insertion: While she sits on your lap, let her use her hands to guide the penis into her vagina.
Participate in sex: Man should not sit there motionless. He can use hands to support her hips to assist her movements, or slide along the inner side of her thighs, or tease her clitoris, or caress her breasts while she swings.
Maintain intimacy: Press your chest against her back. This close skin-to-skin position will create a sense of intimacy. It goes beyond penetrations and allows her to feel more immersed in the sex.

Women’s Position

Sit on his lap: Stretch your legs straight and lean against his chest, using your arms and legs for balance.
Adjust for the best position: Adjust the position so that his penis enters your vagina at the perfect angle to stimulate the G-spot or for deeper penetration. Women can change the insertion angle and depth by slightly leaning forward or backward.
Find the best feeling: Women can rock, twist or slowly move their hips to find the most comfortable feeling.
Maintain balance and tease him: Place your hands on the man’s knees or thighs to steady yourself. You can lean back, allowing him to kiss your neck or whisper flirtatious words in your ear.

The best stimulation areas for sitting sex

The sitting sex position may seem casual, but it allows for precise and controlled stimulation of her sensitive spot – the G-spot – maximizing her sexual pleasure.

When using this position for sex, she can enjoy sexual pleasures below:

G-spot: It is located about 2-3 inches inside the vaginal front wall and is densely packed with nerve endings, which makes it more sensitive under rhythmic and firm pressure. In this sex position, the upward thrusting motion of the penis can continuously stimulate the G-spot to create deep sexual pleasure.
Pelvic nerves: When having sex with the sitting position, the depth and angle of penetration stimulate the pelvic nerves, which are connected to various pleasure centers within her body. This can enhance her overall sexual arousal and responsiveness.

If done correctly, sitting sex positions can provide her with sexual pleasure on multiple levels.

You can also choose to have sex in a tantra chair, rocking chair, or massage chair.

1. Sideways Straddle Position

If you want her sex position to look more sexy, sideways straddle is your best choice. It can maintain intimacy and change the way and intensity when the penis stimulating her vagina, so that to give her a different sex pleasure than before.

How to do it: The woman sits sideways on the man’s lap, with her legs pressed against her body. This sideways angle changes the way the penis is inserted, stimulating her G-spot in a teasing and indirect way. He can caress her thighs, breasts, or neck at the same time. He can hold her legs and back for balance, or gently stroke her sacrum or pull her hair aggressively.
Target audience: The sideways straddle position is ideal for couples who enjoy exploring new sensations without complicating their intimacy. If she craves a sense of security but also desires deeper stimulation from a unique angle, this position would be perfect for her.

2. Reverse Straddle Position

If you’re looking to have a unique sexual experience on the couch, you can try the reverse cowgirl position. This position effectively stimulates the G-spot on the front wall of the vagina, while allowing her to control the penetration rhythm.

How to do it: She leans forward with her knees bent, placing her hands on the man’s knees or thighs to control the penetration pace. As his penis enters, it directly stimulates her G-spot, while the man can enjoy and caress her raised hips.
Target audience: This is an excellent position for couples who enjoy experimenting with new sexual experiences. After all, rear-entry style is one of the best positions for G-spot stimulation, while also offering a new way to enjoy intimacy on the couch.

3. Reverse Ekiben Position

There’s a reason this position is called the “reverse ekiben“, because the only difference is that the man is sitting. The woman is firmly seated on his lap, and this action combines intimacy with G-spot stimulation for a more daring sex experience.

How to do it: The woman sits on his lap, facing the same direction, with her legs stretched out. The man holds her thighs with his hands. This position allows for deeper penetration, focusing on her G-spot and enhancing her pleasure. In addition, her hands can masturbate sensitive areas such as her clitoris and breasts.
Target audience: This position is very suitable for couples who are bold and open in sex. If conditions permit, the two can sit in front of a mirror and watch themselves while having sex.

So far, you’ve mastered some basic techniques for sitting sex. But is she satisfied with just one orgasm? If you want her to experience more and more exciting orgasms, read on to learn how to make the most of sitting sex.

How to Experience More Pleasure While Using Sitting Sex Position?

The sitting sex is already an excellent and highly effective position. It offers both intimacy and intense stimulation of her vaginal sensitive areas, particularly the G-spot.

However, following these tips will make your sex life more memorable.

Bathtub sex: You can experience sitting sex in the bathtub. Due to the buoyancy of the water, she will exert less effort while penetrating. Additionally, warm water enhances sensitivity, especially when combined with slow thrusting. However, safety is important, so the man should hold onto the handrails for stability. If you plan to use lubricant during bathtub sex, be sure to choose a oil-based lubricant.
Music as an Aphrodisiac: Play a song that both of you enjoy, and then have her sit on your lap and perform a seductive, sensual dance. The man can also kiss her ear or whisper dirty talks to arouse her sexual desire.
Caress her clitoris: Use a vibrator or your fingers to stimulate her clitoris as she twists and thrusts. The rhythmic penis thrusts and the continuous focused clitoral stimulation will leave her gasping for air and moaning in a sexy way.
Stimulate nipples: Women’s nipples are very sensitive. You can apply some lubricant on them and then gently squeeze them with your hands to keep her excited.
Mild sadism: Gently pull her hair or grab her hips tightly to make her feel slightly abused. Most women like this feeling and it will intensify their pleasure.

Of course, it would be very tiring if you only use a single position to have sex throughout the whole process, so let’s change the position and continue to penetrate her vagina from different angles.

Switch from Sitting to Other Positions

Now that you know how to use the sitting sex position. Just keep your passion alive and smoothly switch to the next position. The new position not only provides the same sexual pleasure, but also enhances physical intimacy.

1. Spoon Style

If you want to enjoy skin-to-skin contact while having sex, the spoon position will be the best one. When switching from the sitting position to the spoon style, you must not only maintain smoothness, but also maintain the comfort for subsequent sex.

Male Position: Lean back and guide her to lean sideways on you. Then both of you lie sideways on the bed and adjust the position of your legs to ensure comfort and that the penis is not blocked by the legs when inserted.
Female Position：Put your hands on the bed or holding the handrails. Keep your back close to his chest, and then slowly lie down on your side. Stretch your upper leg slightly forward to ensure that the penis can be smoothly penetrated.

Final Position: The man and woman lie sideways, with the woman’s back against the man’s chest. This position creates a suitable angle for penetration and stimulation. It allows the penis to fuck shallowly and closely, with his hands caress her thighs, buttocks, breasts, or clitoris.

2. Seated Scissors Position

Male Position：The man remains in a sitting position and slowly guides her hips down and lets her lie sideways between his legs. He needs to sit up straight, put his feet on the bed to keep stable, and put one of her legs under his legs for support. Use his hands to support her thighs. Let her hips slightly back, and open her legs so that the penis can be inserted smoothly.
Female Position：The woman lies on her side with the lower leg straight and the other leg slightly bent to place on his knee. She can support her body with her elbows or lie completely relaxed on the bed.

Final Position: You two are in a semi-cross position, with her legs resting on his legs to achieve the perfect penetration angle. This position changes the depth and speed of the penis’s thrusting, and both of you can penetrate slowly. It is also very suitable to stimulate her G-spot, and the man can caress her inner thighs, clitoris or breasts with his hands at the same time, giving her multiple sexual pleasures.

Why Experience Sitting Sex?

Sitting sex can meet the needs of every couple – whether you want to try new positions or experience different sexual stimulations.

Let’s dive into why this should be your best sex position.

Breaking Physical Limits: Back pain? Height differences? If you have a tendency to experience back pain, you can sit back against a chair or headboard, which will fully relax your back. Height differences won’t affect sex either—whether the man is taller or the woman is, the seated position can solve the issue.
Toys, Roleplay, Fetishes: Ready to spice things up? Try using a clitoral suction vibrator, experiment with a tantric chair, or incorporate light bondage to add excitement. Pulling her hair, whispering dirty talks, and teasingly biting her shoulder can all enhance the sensation.
Deep Emotional Connection: With her back against your chest and your arms wrapped around her, few positions are as intimate as the sitting style. With kisses, sweet words, or gentle caresses, it will allow you to experience satisfaction both on physical and emotional levels.

Whether she likes gentle sex or sadomasochistic sex; whether you are novice in sex or experienced masters, sitting style can satisfy both of you.

FAQ About Sitting Sex

What are the precautions for sitting sex positions?

It is important to ensure the stability, especially the man who serves as the base. He must stabilize his body and use handrails when necessary.

When women swing or squat, they must ensure that the penis is always in the vagina. If it accidentally slips out and then the woman sits on the penis, it can easily cause a fracture of the corpus cavernosum.

Is sitting sex suitable for all couples?

Absolutely! This position is for all, no matther you are tall, short, fat, and thin. If height differences are an issue, place a cushion under her knees or have the other person kneel instead of sitting. The penetration angle is also easy to adjust.

If she wants to lead the movement, she can slightly adjust the position of her legs – opening them at a wider angle or stepping on the floor, which can make her body more stable and easier to exert force.

Is sitting sex suitable for anal sex?

Yes, but no matter which position you use, anal sex should be done gently and with constant communication between both parties. If using sitting sytle to have anal sex, you can let her lean forward slightly to change the insertion angle, making it easier for the penis to enter while allowing her to control penetration depth and angle. Be sure to use plenty of lubricant and slow down the pace during anal sex, otherwise women will not be able to experience comfort.

Is sitting sex okay during pregnancy?

It varies from person to person. However, for most pregnant women, as long as the movements are gentle, they can have sex in a sitting position. In the later stages of pregnancy, when the belly is larger, women can adjust to a semi-lying position to avoid unnecessary pressure on the abdomen.

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