
Is your sex like an assembly line these days? Fast, boring, and bland? No longer able to experience the passion you ever had when you were in love or on your honeymoon?
What you want is sex like this: she holds your neck tightly, panting and moaning, begging you to penetrate deeper and faster. In the end, you both have an unforgettable orgasm.
But for most couples, such a high-quality perfect sex activity seems very far away. Even 84% of women admit that they always fake orgasms.
If you want her to orgasm every time you have sex, instead of faking it to satisfy your ego, just keep reading.
The Pros and Cons of Man-on-top Riding Position
It is called “cowboy” because the man is in the dominant position during sex and can control the rhythm and intensity of sex, just like a cowboy taming a wild horse.
This cowboy riding position is the man-on-top style, they have full control over the depth, angle and speed of penetration. If the technique is correct, the woman will hug you tightly, moan, and arch her body like a wild horse to meet every thrust of the penis.
Of course, there is no perfect sex position in the world, so before using it to make love, let’s analyze its pros and cons.
Pros
- Deep penetration: If the guy is leading the thrusting, he can adjust the angle of his penis to target her A-spot and G-spot, or even cervix. If a woman craves the feeling of having her vagina “filled up”, this male riding position is definitely worth a try. As he thrusts, the guy should align his pubic bone with hers to get the deepest penetration.
- Control sex rhythm: The angle, depth and speed of penetrations are controlled by the man – whether it is slow grinding or fierce fucking. This position is absolutely made for female orgasm.
- Stimulate her clitoris: The man’s hands are free, so he can reach out and stimulate her clitoris. If you use a vibrator, you can give her a more intense stimulation and ensure that she reaches orgasm, making her toes curl and her eyes roll back.
- Intimacy and connection: With her underneath you, your chests touching, your eyes locked – this position guarantees the most intimacy of private parts. Men can kiss, whisper, or observe her every gasp and moan. This is definitely a sexy and primitive position in sex.
- Accumulate sexual pleasure: Sex is not a competition, don’t compete for speed. The male riding sex position can fuck slowly, allowing the woman to accumulate sexual pleasure until she moans, trembles, begs and reaches orgasm. This position is the perfect combination of foreplay and sex.
Cons
- Thigh and core exercise: This position is not suitable for people with poor athletic ability, because thigh and core strength are needed to maintain body balance and continuous penetrations during sex.
- Precisely rub sensitive areas: The penetration angle is very important. If there is a slight deviation, the penis will not be able to touch and rub her G-spot or A-spot. Men can tilt their hips forward or backward to ensure that every thrust rubs her sensitive areas. This requires observing her facial expressions and body reactions during sex to determine the effective stimulation angle, speed and depth, and then repeating until you both reach orgasm simultaneously.
- Not for quick sex: If you want fast and intense sex, this position may not be the best one. Cowboy requires control and technique, not hasty or sloppy thrusts.
- Back strain: If a woman is prone to lower back pain, this supine position may not be suitable for her. Try using pillows to support her hips and adjust the penetration angle to avoid discomfort. Make sure she is comfortable throughout the sex so that she can maximize her sexual pleasure.
- Women are more passive: Some women prefer the woman on top (cowgir) position. If she is the type of woman who likes to be active and in control of the sex, you can switch between the cowboy and cowgirl positions.
How to Use Cowboy Sex Position?
Unlike the cowgirl position, the man takes the dominant role in cowboy style. It allows the man to control the sex pace while enabling deeper penetration and stimulation of her sensitive spots (G-spot and A-spot). At the same time, you can maintain eye contact to enhance intimacy.
Follow these steps to turn your bed into a sex place and give her an unforgetable orgasm.
Tips for Men
- Be confident: While she’s lying on her back, straddle her hips. Get down on your knees and place them on either side of her thighs. Align yourself with her pelvis to allow for smooth insertion.
- Use strength wisely: Lean forward slightly, place your hands on both sides of her body. Support your body with your arms to keep balance. During sex, use your arms, hips, waist, and thighs to coordinate your strength, and don’t let sex turn into a strenuous plank training.
- Penis insertion: Tilt the penis slightly upward and insert it into her vagina. Why upward? Because it can more effectively stimulate her G-spot and A-spot, then you will give her more sexual pleasure and help her reach orgasm.
- Control sex rhythm: After the penis is inserted, swing your hips rhythmically. Try to use shallow penetrations to tease, and deep penetrations to convey the pleasure and fulfillment. At the same time, You can alternate between fast and slow penetrations, which can arouse her sexual pleasure and let her make seductive moans.
- Stay focused: Don’t be distracted during sex. Always pay attention to her breathing, moans, and body language. Adjust the penetration angle, speed, or depth of based on her reactions.
Tips for Women
- Lie down and relax: The woman should lie flat first and keep her body relaxed. The buttocks should be slightly tilted upwards so that the penis can enter more smoothly and comfortably.
- Position legs correctly: Your legs should be close together or slightly apart. If you want to make penetration easier, bend your knees and place your feet on the bed. This angle will keep your pelvis lifted, making penetration easier.
- Use a sex pillow: If a woman experiences lower back discomfort, she can place a pillow under her hips. This small adjustment not only helps improve comfort, but also adjusts the angle of the vagina for deeper penetration.
- Hands and arms: Place your hands on his hips or thighs to guide the rhythm and depth of penetration during sex. After all, she will definitely hold you tight when she is about to orgasm.
- Participate and enjoy: Encourage women to focus on sex throughout the process – maintain eye contact, moan or gently scratch the man’s back. This helps men get accurate sexual feedback, so that they can summarize and improve sex quality.
Reminder: Use a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris – her orgasm will be more intense. Always communicate during sex. Confirm with her the most comfortable stimulation angle and intensity. Sometimes a slight adjustment can make her experience a whole body trembling orgasm.
However, men must know how to aim when fucking – because rubbing or stimulating her sensitive spots is not a matter of luck, it is a skill. Next, let’s talk about how to stimulate her sensitive spots when using the man-on-top riding position (cowboy style).
Areas That Should Be Stimulated

When having sex in the cowboy position, his penis should be penetrated downward.
Let’s look at the anatomy of the female vagina and why this insertion angle will give her more sexual pleasure.
- A-spot: Located on the front wall of the vagina, just behind the G-spot. Stimulating this area can lead to long-lasting, deep, and full-body orgasms.
- G-spot: It is located about 2-3 inches inside the upper wall of the vagina. As the penis moves downward, it rubs against the nerve endings around it.
- Cervix: If she likes deep penetration, it will allow the penis to hit her cervix – which can produce intense sexual pleasure if stimulated correctly.
- Clitoris: This angle also means that his pubic bone rubs against her clitoris with every penetration, truly synchronizing internal and external stimulation.
Cowboy Position Variations
If your previous cowboy sex experience has made you feeling boring, it’s time to try spicing things up. These variations will give her a more exciting sex experience.
1. Bow Sex Position

This position is called the “Bow Position” because her legs resemble a perfectly drawn bow. It belongs to the side-entry position. As long as the man controls the duration and technique, she will experience waves of intense pleasure.
In this scenario, your penis is the arrow, piercing all her sensitive parts deeply, hard and accurately.
The woman lies on her back with legs bent and placed on both sides of the man’s body, while her pelvis tilts upward to ensure smooth penetration. This position requires precision, intimacy, and can create an alluring visual effect.
- The intensity of her sexual pleasure depends not only on the penetration depth, but also on the precision. The downward insertion angle can stimulate her A-spot and G-spot. Men can hold her thighs for stability and balance. If she wants to experience more sexual pleasure, you can use sex toys to tease her clitoris, which will definitely make her lose her mind and immerse herself in the sex.
- During sex, you can say some dirty talks and keep eye contact. A perfect sex will make her willing to be fucked again even if the sheets are dirty afterwards.
2. Pretzel Dip Sex Positions

During sex, the woman’s body twists and wraps around the man like a soft and steaming pretzel, hence the name “pretzel sex”. It also belongs to the side entry style.
The man kneels beside the woman, and she presses her raised leg against his chest, with the other leg flat, so that your private parts will form a comfortable and intimate fit. Then he can fuck her senstive areas precisely.
- This position features a cross-angle entry. By lifting her leg, the man can adjust the tilt of her pelvis, ensuring that every thrust stimulates her G-spot and A-spot. Meanwhile, her extended leg helps keep her hips relaxed, making it easier for the man to fine-tune the angle. If the man’s erection has good flexibility, he can effortlessly vary his thrusting angle, precisely targeting her most sensitive vaginal spots with each movement. Additionally, he gets to fully admire the beauty of her sensual, graceful body throughout the experience.
- This position is perfect for men who love maintaining dominance during sex. If she enjoys the sensation of being fully exposed and craves deep, precise stimulation, this is an ideal choice. Add some teasing and seductive words, slow down the rhythm to build anticipation, and watch as she completely loses herself in sex pleasure right before your eyes.
3. Snake Sex Position

When using this position for sex, the woman’s body shape and swaying are like a snake moving, hence the name “snake sex position”. It is also a side-entry style.
The man kneels on one leg and firmly holds her upper leg. Her lower leg can be straight or slightly bent. This position ensures deep penetration and precise stimulation of her most sensitive areas.
- The man holds her like a sexy human trophy, squeezing her body and thrusting his penis deep into her vagina. He can stimulate her A-spot and G-spot precisely and intensely. The perfect thrusting angle gives her maximum sexual pleasure. If the man wants to give her multi-level stimulation, he can free up one hand to rub her clitoris.
- This position demands a good level of strength and stamina from the man. If she enjoys deep penetration and continuous vaginal stimulation, this position can fulfill her desires. To make her more engaged, maintaining eye contact and adding some dirty talks can enhance your sex experience.
How to Get More Pleasure from Cowboy Sex Position?

Master the following sex skills and let your cowboy style completely conquer her in bed.
- Deep multi-stimulation: Place a pillow under her hips and tilt her hips slightly upward, so that each penetration rubs her A-spot and the G-spot on the front wall of her vagina.
- Synchronize penis penetrations with clitoral stimulation: Use a clitoral sucking toy or vibrator and match its rhythm to the penis thrusts. Go slow when deep and fast when shallow. You should master the switching rhythm of deep and shallow, which will make her orgasm completely and twitch.
- Pelvic squeeze: The man leans forward and presses his pubic bone against her pubic bone, then rubs her pubic bone as he thrusts his penis in and out. This can stimulate the legs of her clitoris, giving her a wild and full-body orgasm.
- Stimulate her perineum: Men can adjust the penetration angle slightly downward to stimulate her corpora cavernosa. It is located between her vaginal opening and anus and is a nerve-rich area. Men can also massage her perineum area with hands during sex, which will make her more sexually aroused.
- Heat stimulation: Warm up the silicone sex toy (or your hand) and slide it along her thighs and belly as you fuck her. The added heat increases blood flow, making her more sensitive to each touch and penetration.
Now you have already mastered the cowboy positions techniques, you can schedule sex. Let cowboy be the sex position she dreams of in the future.
Next, let’s look at how to smoothly transition from cowboy to other sex positions to maintain variety and continuity in your sex activity.
Transitioning from Cowboy to Other Positions
Even the most intense sexual positions cannot be maintained for long periods. During sex, it’s typical to switch between 2-3 different positions. This not only adds variety, but also allows you to have a short rest. Even just a few seconds can help the penis calm down from the edge of ejaculation.
Smooth and skillful changes in sexual positions will not only maintain her sexual pleasure, but will make her more look forward to the next sex activities and take her sexual pleasure to a new higher level.
1. Anvil Sex Positions

The anvil position, just like its name, involves deep and direct penetration. As the woman is pressed beneath, every penetration creates enticing sounds, and there is constant and intimate eye contact through the sex. This position is ideal for both long-time couples and those in passionate relationships.
- Male Position: Maintain a kneeling position and lean forward. Guide her to place her legs outside of yours, then move her legs onto your shoulders. By leaning forward, you’ll lift her hips slightly, increasing friction and ensuring close contact between your intimate areas.
- Female Position: Lift both legs onto the man’s shoulders. This position tilts her pelvis, ensuring the deepest angle of penetration, allowing the penis to reach more sensitive areas, such as the A-spot.
The woman’s legs are on the man’s shoulders, and her vagina will be tilted upwards naturally. With each thrust, the penis can penetrate deeply into the deepest part of her vagina. She begins to breathe rapidly and hugs him tightly, eager to have her vagina completely filled and fucked.
2. Pretzel Sex Position

The man can hold her legs and hips, then twist her body to create the best angle for penetration. Be sure that each insertion accurately hits her sensitive spots in vagina.
This position can also make your private parts be more close, and man can appreciate her curvy figure.
Position Transition
- Male Position: The man shifts from straddling her to kneeling beside her, gently pulling her leg around waist. One hand steadies her hip or thigh, while the other helps him maintain balance and continue to fuck her.
- Female Position: Starting from the cowboy position, she faces the man, placing one leg flat on the bed while crossing the other leg over his waist. This position creates a diagonal opening, making it ideal for exploring new penetration angles.
The man kneels beside the woman, one of her legs wrapped around his waist as if to lock him in place, while the other leg stretches out, opening her pelvis, which allows him to fuck her from any angle. This diagonal positioning enables deep penetration, while the man’s inner thighs and pubic bone simultaneously stimulate her clitoris, intensifying her sexual pleasure.
Switching from the cowboy position to variations like the saddle, pretzel, traditional cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, or even horizontal cowgirl can bring diversity to your sex life. It keeps things exciting and fresh, offering the opportunity to explore different angles of pleasure, and allowing you to find the perfect rhythm between deep and shallow penetrations.
Summary of Cowboy Sex Position
The cowboy sex position is popular among couples due to its versatility. By simply adjusting the angles and postures of their bodies, both men and women can experience a wide range of different sex positions.
Whether you’re using the cowboy position to build sexual stamina, explore new ways to make love, or deepen your connection with her body, this position is sure to meet your needs.
- Last longer: If you want to last longer, the cowboy position may be ideal for you, especially if you have a curved penis. By maintaining a slow pace and making shallow penetrations, while adjusting the angle in different directions, you can enhance her excitement and showcase your skills.
- Physical limitations: If you have physical limitations but still want to try the cowboy position, don’t worry. Whether it’s back pain, tight hamstrings, or a height difference, the cowboy position can solve these problems. Simply place a pillow under her hips to relieve pressure, or have her keep feet flat on the bed. With a few small adjustments, you’ll be able to enjoy this position comfortably.
- Explore the freshness: When using the cowboy position, you can try sex toys. For example, a sex pillow is very suitable for adjusting the angle of her vagina; a clitoral vibrator can make her enjoy more sexual pleasure. Want to be rough with her? You can add some binding or hair pulling to satisfy the sense of conquest or masochism.
- Increase intimacy: Cowboy sex is a great way to increase intimacy. Leaning forward, gazing into each other’s eyes, matching your rapid breathing and moans, or her sexy moan, while whispering dirty words (sweet, flirtatious, or rough) will greatly increase intimacy between you.
The cowboy position is like a Swiss Army knife of versatility. Whether you need endurance, flexibility, increased affection, or just to spice things up, it has you covered.
常见问题
What are the differences between cowgirl and cowboy positions?
In the cowboy style, men are in full control of the sexual process, such as the depth, rhythm and penetration angles, while women only need to lie down, relax, and enjoy the entire sexual process. This position emphasizes deeper and more precise stimulation of her sensitive areas, allowing her to obtain stronger and multi-dimensional sexual pleasure.
The regular cowgirl position puts the woman in control of the intercourse, allowing her to decide the depth and speed of penetration.
How to have sex in the cowboy style without offending women?
First, make her feel that you are here to improve sexual satisfaction for both of you. For example, “I’ve been wanting to try some new sex positions and techniques to make you feel more pleasurable.”
At the same time, ask women how they feel during sex and pay attention to their comfort. You can let women make some suggestions, such as changing the posture or position of the legs, changing the depth and speed of thrusting, using sex pillows or other sex toys… Building trust and open communication are the key to introducing new sex positions.
What should you know when having sex in the cowboy position?
The man needs to engage his core strength to maintain the rhythm and stability of thrusting. Additionally, don’t neglect stimulating her clitoris—whether with your hand or a small vibrator. Start with slow, shallow penetrations to help her get in the mood and avoid overstimulation. If she feels discomfort in her hips or back, using a pillow can help adjust the position.
What should women do?
The woman lies on her back, with her legs positioned between the man’s. She then gives him “instructions” during sex—whether it’s requesting deeper penetration, adjusting the angle, or increasing clitoral stimulation. In this position, her body is fully relaxed, allowing her to focus entirely on experiencing pleasure.
How about studying from porn videos?
Watching techniques in adult films can provide some visual inspiration, but don’t get caught up in the performance. After all, the real purpose of the cowboy position is to enhance mutual pleasure, not to put on a show.