I wonder if your husband often says to you: Why not try anal sex? How about taking a bath together and have anal sex?
I had never thought about anal sex, and I didn’t know what it feels like. I just thought it would be painful, so I never agreed to him. I think only few girls had anal sex before, right?
But I couldn’t resist his nagging, so I agreed to give it a try recently.
Is The First Anal Sex Comfortable?
After trying it once, I would say that anal sex doesn’t hurt. It feels weird, but it’s also quite comfortable. I wonder if you feel comfortable during anal sex?
Here are some tips for a woman’s first anal sex experience, including how to clean, dilate, and achieve pleasure from anal sex.
What should I prepare for anal sex? There are many ways to have anal sex, and these are my personal experiences below.
Tip 1: Clean
The anus is where feces come out and must be cleaned.
I was in the bathroom with my legs spread open, and my boyfriend took out an enema kit (a pump used to clean the anus and rectum), sucked water into the pump, inserted it into my anus, and squeezed out the water from the pump. This is the first step in how to have anal sex.
We used warm water for enema, which made me more comfortable.
I thought the water would flow out immediately after being squeezed into the anus, but it didn’t. I had to squeeze it several times before it flowed out. And the water was transparent, probably because I had just defecated in the morning and I have the habit of eating fruit every day.
However, the feeling during enema was very strange, because usually hard stuff comes out of the anus. But now it was like anal urination, accompanied by a warm and slightly burning feeling. This was never experienced before.
Tip 2: Anal dilation
After cleaning your anus and rectum, you are ready to start anal sex.
To avoid making a mess, it is recommended to place a towel under your butt before starting.
Apply lubricant to the butt plug first, and then insert it into the anus.
Anal sex requires lubrication, which can be lubricant, anal stimulating cream, or anal relaxation spray. They will make your butthole relax.
When I first inserted the butt plug, it felt OK. There was no pain, but there was still a foreign body sensation.
In fact, both men and women have many nerve endings in their anal sphincters. So it is normal to feel pleasure after inserting a butt plug. If you are used to using butt plugs, this step should be easy.
The most important purpose of anal dilation is to relax your anal sphincter first and let it adapt to the feeling of a foreign object.
Tip 3: Fingering
Before inserting the penis, he should put his index or middle finger into your anus, and allow your anal sphincter to further adapt to the feeling of being penetrated by a foreign object.
I have never had a finger inserted into my anus. But my husband suddenly said he wanted to try it, and I said “Ok, but only one finger.”
He slowly inserted his index finger and asked me if it hurt.
I felt that fingers were smaller than the butt plug, so I asked him to try inserting two fingers.
We hadn’t started anal sex at that time, but I was nervous and scared. Fortunately, I didn’t feel any pain, but when he inserted two fingers, I felt a strong foreign body sensation.
Then my husband slowly fingered my anus, and there was a position that was quite comfortable when he touched. Could this be the pleasure of anal sex? Afterwards, he said the flesh inside my anus was very slippery 🙂
Tip 4: Lubricate
Originally, I planned to let my husband finger my anus and then end it.
But he said he wanted to put his penis inside because my anus was already dilated…
But I know that the thickness of two fingers and a penis is totally different, even though he said they are about the same…
Because the anus and rectum do not secrete love fluid on their own, lubrication must be used to protect the inner wall of the rectum from injury.
Later he applied a lot of lubricant on his penis. Many couples think lubricants should be applied on the asshole when they have anal sex for the first time, which is wrong!
If the penis feels painful when inserted, or is not lubricated enough, remember to add more lubricant and never force it in!
Tip 5: Slow Insertion
The girl can lie down, then put a pillow under her vulva and lift her butt up, so that it is easier to insert.
However, my first anal sex was a bit thrilling. I originally thought that he would insert into my anus slowly. After all, he was very gentle when he was fingering me just now.
But as a result, he inserted the entire penis at once, and my anus was completely filled with his penis.
Fortunately, he applied a lot of lubricant and dilated my anus in advance, so he could insert it so smoothly. I was so surprised that I screamed out. I have a deep impression of that moment, not because of the anal orgasm, but because I was scared.
I suggest that when you have anal sex, please insert penis slowly. Anal sex requires experience and skills! Otherwise, it will be terrible if she gets hurt and bleed…
Tip 6: Warm Feelings
Many people want to know what anal sex feels like, and does it hurt?
From my experience, it doesn’t hurt much when the penis is inserted first!
But there was a very strong foreign body sensation, and I felt hot inside the anus, after all, his penis was hot, haha.
During anal sex, the penis keeps rubbing against the anus and rectum, and the burning sensation becomes more intense, like a fire. It feels like you are trying to defecate, but you can’t, and it just stays in the anus.
After my husband had been thrusting for a few minutes, I felt completely limp, as if I had no strength left in my body. However, my anus felt very comfortable, which was completely different from vaginal sex.
I don’t know how to describe the feeling of anal orgasm. Maybe it was because I was a little nervous and curious for the first time, and my husband said anal sex was very comfortable, then he kept thrusting, so I had a lot of expectations in my heart. But I didn’t pay much attention to the physical feeling. I just felt that there was a big object moving around in my asshole.
If I have anal sex again in the future, I should be more experienced and more fully prepared in advance. Then maybe I can enjoy the physical pleasure better?
Tip 7: Relax
Except for my initial shock when he inserted his penis at the beginning, I was quite relaxed throughout the whole process. Maybe because it was also my husband’s first time having anal sex, he was quite considerate and gentle.
Only when your mind is relaxed, your body will relax as well, the anus can expand better, and it will be easier for you to reach anal orgasm.
Also, there is a possibility of bleeding during anal sex, so everyone must be prepared and stay relaxed. Especially women, who are usually very nervous during anal sex.
I think anal sex requires patience and the husband needs to be gentle, so that you can enjoy its pleasure.
Man can also ask her how she feels during anal sex, such as “Can I penetrate a little deeper?” It is the correct anal sex experience to communicate with her and care about her.
This is the end of my sharing of anal sex experience. I hope everyone can enjoy the pleasure! If you have never had anal sex before, you can try it according to my experience and your actual situation.
FAQ About Anal Sex
1. Does anal sex hurt? What need to be prepared in advance?
Anal sex certainly won’t be painful if you prepare well, relax, and do it correctly.
Before anal sex, you should use enough lubricant and try to relax the anal sphincter. At first, man must insert the penis slowly until her body is fully adapted, so that she can experience the subsequent anal orgasm.
If you are still afraid, you’d better stop. You should first explore it yourself, I mean that you can insert your fingers into the anus and feel the experience yourself.
2. A man who likes anal sex means he is a gay?
Don’t think so. Sexual orientation is a broad option. A person’s sexual orientation cannot be defined simply by a certain sexual behavior.
Liking or engaging in anal sex does not mean that he is gay. If he likes anal sex, it may be that he simply enjoys the prostate sexual pleasure.
Many people think that only gay men have anal sex. and people who hold this idea are discriminating against homosexuals and anal sex.
3. What does anal sex feel like?
Many people are curious about what anal sex feels like. I can tell you responsibly: if you have never had anal sex before, you won’t understand this feeling.
Don’t ask questions like “is anal sex comfortable?” Only by trying it yourself, can you know the wonderful pleasure of anal orgasm.
4 What is anal sex?
Any sexual activity involving an object inserted into the anus is considered as anal sex, whether it’s a finger, a toy, or a penis.
